Mix Tape Friday: Misery Masala
So last week’s mix tape was all about sex and candy, flowers and fluttering hearts. But not everyone got to celebrate and swoon last Thursday — and thus today’s mix tape is for you. I’ve simmered up a masala of misery — chunky bites of unrequited love and heartbreak, with a dash of bitterness and a sweet hint of hope. I didn’t get too spicy with the hopelessness and despair because I believe there’s always another great dish waiting to be served.
It ain’t all love and happiness every day, kids. And there’s nothing better than a sad, sad song to help us fully enjoy that funk. Sometimes you just need to feel sorry for your lonely ol’ self.
I’m getting excited about the new season of Top Chef!
Al Green :: Tired of Being Alone
The Young Rascals :: (I've Been) Lonely too Long
The Cardigans :: Lovefool
Otis Redding :: Mr. Pitiful
Liz Phair :: Extraordinary
Matthew Sweet :: Girlfriend
Wings :: Arrow Through Me
Billy Bragg :: Wish You Were Her
The Carpenters :: Superstar
Elvis Costello :: I Want You
Buzzcocks :: Ever Fallen in Love (With Someone You Shouldn’t Have?)
Joy Division :: Love Will Tear Us Apart
Harold Melvin & The Bluenotes :: The Love I Lost (Part 1)
Derek & The Dominoes :: Layla
Ivan Neville :: Why Can’t I Fall in Love?
Alanis Morissette :: Uninvited
Jeff Buckley :: Last Goodbye
The Replacements :: Unsatisfied
Res :: Let Love
eels :: Jeannie’s Diary
Lyle Lovett :: If I Were the Man You Wanted
Gladys Knight & The Pips :: If I Were Your Woman
Cake :: Sad Songs and Waltzes
Damien Rice :: When Doves Cry
Michael Stipe :: Last Day of Our Acquaintance
The Rolling Stones :: Almost Hear You Sigh
Amy Winehouse :: Wake up Alone
Cat Stevens :: Trouble
Squeeze :: Points of View
Bonnie Raitt :: I Can’t Make You Love Me
Warren Zevon :: Reconsider Me
Smokey Robinson & The Miracles :: The Tracks of My Tears
Joe Jackson :: Is She Really Going out with Him?
Rufus Wainwright :: April Fools
Smog :: Cold Blooded Old Times
Nico :: These Days
Nick Drake :: Which Will
Nanci Griffith :: Morning Song for Sally
Bob Dylan :: If You See Her, Say Hello
Tom Waits :: Trampled Rose
Rickie Lee Jones :: Company
Jimmy Buffet :: Coast of Marseilles
George Jones :: He Stopped Loving Her Today
Here’s the zip file for those of you too unrequited or bitter to right-click fortysomething times.
“Morning Song for Sally” is one of my very favorite songs in the world. It’s perfect, a lovely tale about a love that can’t be. Jerry Jeff Walker wrote it, and Nanci’s cover is sublime. I listen to it over … and over … and over again … for an hour or more. (I love the drama of heartache. And I'm a bit OCD.) It's a very visual song, almost like a short story.
Funny story about that Alanis Morrissette tune. I was enjoying a lovely, late-night online flirtfest with this wonderful guy. He was sending me his favorite YouTubes (most on the sexier side of the lyrics sheet) between e-flirts. I sent an e-mail about how cute I thought he was (he was, and I believe he still is). A few minutes later, he sends the “Uninvited” video — a song with lyrics like Like anyone would be / I am flattered by your fascination with me / Like any hot blooded woman / I have simply wanted an object to crave / But you're not allowed / You're uninvited / An unfortunate slight. Say wha… ? Never had I been slapped down so completely, misjudged someone’s interest. With a few tears stinging my eyes (remember, I live my life like a Douglas Sirk character), I sent an e-mail backing out of a date later that week … which confused him … which led to one of those dreaded he said/she saids … which led to a deeper conversation we needed to have ... about his never paying attention to the words. Boys, if you’re going to send a girl a video with a song you think is romantic, take the time to check a lyrics site, or you’ll be home watching Numb3rs again.
Between this and December’s heartbreak tape, you’re set for a weekend of moping and moaning. But then get your a** up Monday get your flirt on.
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